Did you ever have a week where when you got to the end of it you just exhaled and said to yourself “I’m so glad that’s over!!!”? Where anything that could go wrong seemed to line up like dominoes in front of you?
Have you ever noticed that just as you think you’ve had the last one knocked over a new line of them appears and it seems like it will never end?
In this post I will outline three steps that I use when training clients to help them turn a bad day or week around.
Two A4 sheets of paper, 1 black or blue biro, 1 packet of coloured crayons or markers (borrow them from your children)
These types of ‘bad’ occurrences tend to undermine your belief in yourself as a Mumpreneur. The doubts about your ability to be successful in your business grab hold and it gets harder and harder to shake them off.
As they progress a little criticism is becomes a major insult, when you air your grievances it seems like you’re expected to stop feeling sorry for yourself and just get on with it by family and friends,all of which adds to the feeling of isolation and that nobody else understands you.
Added to that you have noticed that your patience with and your tolerance towards your childrens’ bad behaviour is lowering at an alarming rate, so you scold them more?
Now on top of your failure as a business owner you’re a bad mother and pile guilt on top of everything else, adding another row of dominoes to the line.
What is a Mumpreneur to do when it feels like it is all getting on top of her and she’s afraid she’ll collapse underneath the weight of it all?
The first thing is to STOP struggling with it all.
You need to stop so that you are no longer mentally thrashing around. Take three deep breaths and exhale them slowly, this will oxygenate your body and calm it down, which will allow your brain to follow suit.
With the black or blue biro write down on the first sheet of paper;
– All the things that are going wrong
– All the grievances that have come your way
– All the guilt you’ve felt at being a short-tempered stressed out Mum towards her children
– All the nasty thoughts you wished on your nay-sayers (be honest! you’ve had some, haven’t you?)
– All the fears that the doubts about your ability to be successful have brought to the surface
Then fold it and put it somewhere you won’t see it.
Give yourself permission to indulge in a treat:
– A nice bubble-bath with candles
– Reading a few chapters in a book
– Listening to your favourite relaxing music
– A glass of wine watching your favourite movie
– Going out for a walk
Whatever your mini-treat is indulge yourself and enjoy it.
Using the crayons or markers write down all the reasons why you set up in business in the first place along the edge of the paper and what you hoped to achieve by doing that.
In the middle of the page write down the little successes you’ve had so far;
– Setting the business up
– Opening a bank account
– Getting that first sale
– Your first repeat customer
– Your biggest sale
– Getting started on Social Media
– Your first testimonial from a client
Use different colours to write each one. Have them criss-cross over each other, make them different sizes according to their importance to you. If you can, hang it up in your workspace where you will easily see it.
Now take your folded list of grievances and tear it into tiny pieces and throw it in the bin or burn it. Notice how the bad feeling have gone with it? Also notice how you have a renewed energy for the next week.
Next week is another week and you can start it with a clean slate.
What processes have you put in place to help you turn a bad day/week around? Have you tried different things? What worked best for you?
Share them below so other Mumpreneurs can learn new ways to cope too.